My nearly two month long hiatus from blogging could be blamed on a lot of things. On the plus, we had some family vacation time, and I happily spent it getting kids in and out of swimsuits instead of on the computer.
But on the negative, I have been watching one of my dearest friends change into someone I don't know anymore.
At one point, and not even too long ago, we were mirror images, young mothers of little boys, trying to balance work and family, enjoying mommy nights eating Mexican food, comparing thoughts on baby carriers and strollers.
But as time progressed, my life became more focused on our rapidly expanding head count; hers became more focused on her career. Then one day, this summer, she told me she wanted a divorce. No counseling. No second thoughts. She wants to find her "happiness", but for those of us who love her, I'm afraid it is costing us ours.
I love my friend, and always will, but I guess this whole thing is making me realize that not all of us who show up for labor classes as a giddy new parents make it to our kids' weddings holding hands and wistfully wiping each others' tears.
Cheers to those of you moms who know you are making the right sacrifices to invest in the lives of your children and husband. Right now, the endless monotony of cleaning kitchens, clothes, and dirty butts can pale in comparison to the thrill of a successful project implementation in the corporate world, but 15 years from now, whose going to remember that project? And by then you'll finally have someone to clean the dishes and do their own laundry (and, thankfully, their butts, too).
I am truly inspired by the many women I know who embrace their role and serve their families. I have been sadly been made aware that not everyone does that. I don't want to fail at this job, so I want to surround myself with women like this, to encourage me through the disciplining valleys, cheer with me through potty training victories, remind me to flirt with my husband, and pray my children to Jesus...you are my heroes.
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Oh, Dana. It's devastating to see couples our age whose marriage ends, isn't it? To date, of the several couples that I've witnessed this happen to, only one was where the woman left. As a mother, I can't imagine (obviously other than cases of abuse). I'm right there with you girl. Now. Go give your hubbers a 10-second kiss! Go!
Oh - but first - welcome back! I love your blogs! :)
This is so hard... I don't think people realize how many people besides themselves and their spouse they affect by their decision to divorce. prayers for you!
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